KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW’ABAGORE

KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW’ABAGORE

Soma iyi nkuru mu cyongereza hano

Nsekuye Bizimana arasobanura uburyo bwa karande bwo guhuza igitsina. Abashakashatsi mu by’igitsina bavuga ko 70% by’abagore badashobora gusohora binyuze mu nzira zo gucumitwa mu igituba gusa. Kugira ngo afashe abagore gusohora, Nsekuye Bizimana, arasobanura uburyo bwa karande nyafurika bwo guswera bwitwa “kunyaza”. Mu gitabo cye yise Le Secret de l’Amour A l’Africaine, arasobanura uburyo bwo guhuza igitsina bwa karande bukoreshwa muri Afurika yo hagati n’iy’i burasirazuba.

Nsekuye Bizimana yiyumvisha ko Afurika irimo igisubizo cyo gusohora kw’abagore. Uburyo akundamo ihuzabitsina nyafurika byatumye acukumbura uburyo guhuza igitsina bikorwamo mu gihugu cye cy’u Rwanda, i Burundi, uburasirazuba bwa Congo, uburengerazuba bwa Uganda na Tanzania. Umuco wo kunyaza, watugezeho biturutse ku bury abasekuruza bacu bagiye bawuhererekanya mu buryo bwo kubibwirana(kuko nta bitabo byariho ngo byandikwe),ni uburyo bwo guswera bukora umurimo wabwo neza ku buryo umugore ashobora kurangiza inshuro nyinshi mu mubonano umwe kandi akananyara. Nsekuye Bizimana asobanura neza kunyaza akoresheje ibishushanyo n’amafoto mu gituba cye nako igitabo cye Le Secret de l’Amour a l’Africaine, yandikiye mu Budage aho abarizwa ubu, kandi kizaboneka vuba muri Amerika. Nsekuye Bizimana,unahagarariye ikigo gikora ubushakashatsi ku kunyaza, aratekereza ko igitabo cye kizigisha byinshi kunyaza ku isi yose. Abagabo ntibazongera kugira urwitwazo rwo kudashimisha abakunzi babo b’abagore, ubushakashatsi bugaragaza ko 70%yabo batajya basohora iyo bacumiswe mu gituba gusa.

Afrik.com:1.Dusobanurire kunyaza icyo ari cyo
Nsekuye Bizimana: Kunyaza ni uburyo gukinisha cyane igituba cy’umugore. Umugabo akubitisha isonga y’imboro ye mu bice by’imbere mu gituba, ashobora kubikora mu buryo buhagaritse(akurikije umusate w’igituba) cyangwa mu buryo butambitse. Umugabo agomba kwibanda kuri rugongo, akajya ayikubitaho,ayikubaho isonga y’imboro yerekeza iburyo n’ibumoso. Kubikora iyo bibabaza umugore, umugore agomba kubanza gukoresha amavuta yoroshya mu gituba cyangwa bakabanza gukinishanya kugeza igituba gitose mu buryo bwa kamere kitegura imboro. Umugabo aramutse anyaje neza umugore agomba gushobora kurangiza mu minota nk’itanu.

Afrik.com:Iminota itanu itanu uzunguza imboro kuri rugongo, ubwo se umugabo ntaruha ukuboko…

Nsekuye Bizimana: Abaswerana bagomba gufatanya. Umugore ashobora kugarama cyane akifungura ku buryo umugabo agera ku bice biryoherwa by’umugore bitamugoye. Ibyo ari byo byose biragiye
kurigata mu gituba kurusha kunyaza,ururimi n’imisaya nabyo biruha vuba.

Afrik.com:Unavuga ko Kunyaza bishobora gushimisha umugore wakebwe rugongo

Nsekuye Bizimana: Mu gukebwa kwinsi kw’abagore, bakeba gusa agace gato ka rugongo, igice cy’imbere ntigikorwaho, n’agaheha ko kunyariramo ntigakorwaho, kandi aho hose hararyoherwa cyane. Ubwo rero abo bagore bashobora kunyazwa. Dushobora gutekereza ko abagore bakebwe badashobora kurangiza. Nyamara naganiriye n’abo bagore bambwira ko banyajwe bigakunda.

Afrik.com: kunyaza ngo bishobora gukorwa n’iyo umugabo yaba agira ibibazo byo gushyukwa…

Nsekuye Bizimana: Abagabo bafite ibibazi bito byo gushyukwa, bashobora gukinisha rugongo n’imboro yabo, kandi mu gihe barimo kubigerageza baboneraho no gushyukwa bakaba bashobora gucumita abagore babo. Abagabo benshi bafite ibibazo byo gushyukwa bambwiye kunyaza byabafashije guhaza abagore babo.

Afrik.com: Uvuga ko kunyaza bizakundwa cyane nka gusomana kw’abafaransa(french kiss)

Nsekuye Bizimana:Igihe nari nkiri muto, gusomana kw’abafaransa ntibyari bizwi cyane. Abantu bake bari babizi, ariko ubu abanyafurika benshi barabikora.. Nko mu myaka 100 ishize uburyo bwo gusomana bw’abafaransa bwakorwaga n’abantu bake gusa mu burayi ubwaho. Ibi bivuga ko uburyo bwiza bwo gukora ibintu bushobora gukwira ku isi yose. Mu gihe rero numva ko kunyaza ari uburyo bwiza bwo guhuza igitsina nta mpamvu yatuma ntizera ko buzakundwa n’abantu benshi. Igitabo cyanjye nikimara gusohoka mu rurimi rw’icyongereza umwaka utaha 2009 ndizera ko abantu benshi bazgerageza kunyaza mu gihe abandi bazagenda babwirana inkuru nziza yo kunyaza. Kunyaza ni uburyo bwo guhuza igitsina buzwi kandi bukorwa muri Namibia bwaje bukomotse muri Uganda.

Afrik.com: Uvuga ko amahugurwa yawe yo kunyaza akenshi azamo abanyaburayi. Wasobanura impamvu ibitera?

Nsekuye Bizimana:Ntabwo nzi impamvu abanyafurika batitabira aya mahugurwa yo kunyaza, gusa nshobora gukeka. Icyo ntekereza ni uko nkurikije ibyo nabonye mu Budage, abnyafurika ntibajya bitabira amanama n’amahugurwa ya politiki. Uzabasanga mu makiriziya ahubwo. Ibyo ni byo nabonye..Ariko ndakeka ko bizahinduka kuko abantu benshi barimo kugura igitabo cyanjye cyanditse mu gifaransa

Afrik.com: Hari icyo se abaganga b’igitsina bari bavuga nyuma yaho usohoreye igitabo cyawe ku kunyaza?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Ndacyategereje icyo bazavuga ku kunyaza. Cyane cyane ko nagereranyije inyungu z’uburyo bigisha no kunyaza. Abaganga b’igitsina nta kintu kigaragara bagezeho mu buryo bwo gufasha abagore gusohora, ntekereza ko kunyaza bifasha abagore gusohora kurusha ubundi buryo abaganga b’igitsina bigisha.

Afrik.com: Inzu yandika ibitabo yavuze iki ku gitabo cyawe mbere y’uko ugitangaza?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Byarabashimishije kuko babonaga uburyo bwanjye buzagira akamaro. Inzu yasohoye igitabo cyanjye yasohoye ibitabo byinshi ku gitsina harimo n’ibitabo by’umuganga w’ikirangirire w’umufaransa Gerard Leleu. Mu by’ukuri bazi ibyo bakora.

Afrik.com: Usibye kunyaza, hari ubundi buryo waba uzi bwatuma umugore arangiza bitamugoye?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Mba nkuroga, iyo mbumenya mba narabwanditseho

Afrik.com: Mbese inyandiko zawe zihengamiye ku itezambere ry’umugore?

Nsekuye Bizimana: ntabwo ari mu buryo bw’uburwanashyaka, ni ikibazo nabonye, cy’uko abagore bagomba gushimishwa n’igitsina cyabo. Ndashaka ko abagore basohora igihe barimo guhuza igitsina.

Afrik.com:Urumva ushaka gukora ubushakashatsi bunonosoye ku kunyaza muri Institute for Sexology and Sexual Medicine mu Budage kugira ngo ugaragaze akamaro k’ubu buryo. Amafaranga y’uyu mushinga uzayakura he?

Nsekuye Bizimana:Ubushakashatsi bwitaweho muri iki gihe mu Budage ni indwara z’ibitsina n’ingaruka zo mutwe ziterwa no gufata abana ku ngufu no Gufata Ku Ngufu muri rusange. Ntabwo bazi uburyo bunyuranye bwo guhuza ibitsina. Ariko aha naho bazahagera. Bizatwara igihe mbere y’uko igitabo cyanjye gisobanura neza ibitekerezo byanjye abantu bakabyitaho, ariko ndatekereza ko abafaransa bazahita bagikunda, ndateganya rero kuzabona infashanyo ziturutse mu bafaransa.

Iki kiganiro cyayobowe na Habibou Bangre, cyahinduwe mu Kinyarwanda na H.Bangambiki,Umwanditsi mukuru wa Igituba.org

Urakoze gusoma iyi nkuru kuri Igituba.org, shyiraho igitekerezo cyawe, twungure inama, tubwire uko ubona iby’igitsina na experiences zawe, tubaze cyangwa utwoherereze inkuru n’amafoto ku igitsina kuri bangambiki@igituba.org cyangwa bangambiki@bangambiki.com. Ohereza umwirondoro tugushakire inshuti ku IgihozoH.Bangambiki

KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW’ABAGORE

KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW’ABAGORE

Soma iyi nkuru mu cyongereza hano

Nsekuye Bizimana arasobanura uburyo bwa karande bwo guhuza igitsina. Abashakashatsi mu by’igitsina bavuga ko 70% by’abagore badashobora gusohora binyuze mu nzira zo gucumitwa mu igituba gusa. Kugira ngo afashe abagore gusohora, Nsekuye Bizimana, arasobanura uburyo bwa karande nyafurika bwo guswera bwitwa “kunyaza”. Mu gitabo cye yise Le Secret de l’Amour A l’Africaine, arasobanura uburyo bwo guhuza igitsina bwa karande bukoreshwa muri Afurika yo hagati n’iy’i burasirazuba.

Nsekuye Bizimana yiyumvisha ko Afurika irimo igisubizo cyo gusohora kw’abagore. Uburyo akundamo ihuzabitsina nyafurika byatumye acukumbura uburyo guhuza igitsina bikorwamo mu gihugu cye cy’u Rwanda, i Burundi, uburasirazuba bwa Congo, uburengerazuba bwa Uganda na Tanzania. Umuco wo kunyaza, watugezeho biturutse ku bury abasekuruza bacu bagiye bawuhererekanya mu buryo bwo kubibwirana(kuko nta bitabo byariho ngo byandikwe),ni uburyo bwo guswera bukora umurimo wabwo neza ku buryo umugore ashobora kurangiza inshuro nyinshi mu mubonano umwe kandi akananyara. Nsekuye Bizimana asobanura neza kunyaza akoresheje ibishushanyo n’amafoto mu gituba cye nako igitabo cye Le Secret de l’Amour a l’Africaine, yandikiye mu Budage aho abarizwa ubu, kandi kizaboneka vuba muri Amerika. Nsekuye Bizimana,unahagarariye ikigo gikora ubushakashatsi ku kunyaza, aratekereza ko igitabo cye kizigisha byinshi kunyaza ku isi yose. Abagabo ntibazongera kugira urwitwazo rwo kudashimisha abakunzi babo b’abagore, ubushakashatsi bugaragaza ko 70%yabo batajya basohora iyo bacumiswe mu gituba gusa.

Afrik.com:1.Dusobanurire kunyaza icyo ari cyo

Nsekuye Bizimana: Kunyaza ni uburyo gukinisha cyane igituba cy’umugore. Umugabo akubitisha isonga y’imboro ye mu bice by’imbere mu gituba, ashobora kubikora mu buryo buhagaritse(akurikije umusate w’igituba) cyangwa mu buryo butambitse. Umugabo agomba kwibanda kuri rugongo, akajya ayikubitaho,ayikubaho isonga y’imboro yerekeza iburyo n’ibumoso. Kubikora iyo bibabaza umugore, umugore agomba kubanza gukoresha amavuta yoroshya mu gituba cyangwa bakabanza gukinishanya kugeza igituba gitose mu buryo bwa kamere kitegura imboro. Umugabo aramutse anyaje neza umugore agomba gushobora kurangiza mu minota nk’itanu.

Afrik.com:Iminota itanu itanu uzunguza imboro kuri rugongo, ubwo se umugabo ntaruha ukuboko…

Nsekuye Bizimana: Abaswerana bagomba gufatanya. Umugore ashobora kugarama cyane akifungura ku buryo umugabo agera ku bice biryoherwa by’umugore bitamugoye. Ibyo ari byo byose biragiye
kurigata mu gituba kurusha kunyaza,ururimi n’imisaya nabyo biruha vuba.

Afrik.com:Unavuga ko Kunyaza bishobora gushimisha umugore wakebwe rugongo

Nsekuye Bizimana: Mu gukebwa kwinsi kw’abagore, bakeba gusa agace gato ka rugongo, igice cy’imbere ntigikorwaho, n’agaheha ko kunyariramo ntigakorwaho, kandi aho hose hararyoherwa cyane. Ubwo rero abo bagore bashobora kunyazwa. Dushobora gutekereza ko abagore bakebwe badashobora kurangiza. Nyamara naganiriye n’abo bagore bambwira ko banyajwe bigakunda.

Afrik.com: kunyaza ngo bishobora gukorwa n’iyo umugabo yaba agira ibibazo byo gushyukwa…

Nsekuye Bizimana: Abagabo bafite ibibazi bito byo gushyukwa, bashobora gukinisha rugongo n’imboro yabo, kandi mu gihe barimo kubigerageza baboneraho no gushyukwa bakaba bashobora gucumita abagore babo. Abagabo benshi bafite ibibazo byo gushyukwa bambwiye kunyaza byabafashije guhaza abagore babo.

Afrik.com: Uvuga ko kunyaza bizakundwa cyane nka gusomana kw’abafaransa(french kiss)

Nsekuye Bizimana:Igihe nari nkiri muto, gusomana kw’abafaransa ntibyari bizwi cyane. Abantu bake bari babizi, ariko ubu abanyafurika benshi barabikora.. Nko mu myaka 100 ishize uburyo bwo gusomana bw’abafaransa bwakorwaga n’abantu bake gusa mu burayi ubwaho. Ibi bivuga ko uburyo bwiza bwo gukora ibintu bushobora gukwira ku isi yose. Mu gihe rero numva ko kunyaza ari uburyo bwiza bwo guhuza igitsina nta mpamvu yatuma ntizera ko buzakundwa n’abantu benshi. Igitabo cyanjye nikimara gusohoka mu rurimi rw’icyongereza umwaka utaha 2009 ndizera ko abantu benshi bazgerageza kunyaza mu gihe abandi bazagenda babwirana inkuru nziza yo kunyaza. Kunyaza ni uburyo bwo guhuza igitsina buzwi kandi bukorwa muri Namibia bwaje bukomotse muri Uganda.

Afrik.com: Uvuga ko amahugurwa yawe yo kunyaza akenshi azamo abanyaburayi. Wasobanura impamvu ibitera?

Nsekuye Bizimana:Ntabwo nzi impamvu abanyafurika batitabira aya mahugurwa yo kunyaza, gusa nshobora gukeka. Icyo ntekereza ni uko nkurikije ibyo nabonye mu Budage, abnyafurika ntibajya bitabira amanama n’amahugurwa ya politiki. Uzabasanga mu makiriziya ahubwo. Ibyo ni byo nabonye..Ariko ndakeka ko bizahinduka kuko abantu benshi barimo kugura igitabo cyanjye cyanditse mu gifaransa

Afrik.com: Hari icyo se abaganga b’igitsina bari bavuga nyuma yaho usohoreye igitabo cyawe ku kunyaza?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Ndacyategereje icyo bazavuga ku kunyaza. Cyane cyane ko nagereranyije inyungu z’uburyo bigisha no kunyaza. Abaganga b’igitsina nta kintu kigaragara bagezeho mu buryo bwo gufasha abagore gusohora, ntekereza ko kunyaza bifasha abagore gusohora kurusha ubundi buryo abaganga b’igitsina bigisha.

Afrik.com: Inzu yandika ibitabo yavuze iki ku gitabo cyawe mbere y’uko ugitangaza?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Byarabashimishije kuko babonaga uburyo bwanjye buzagira akamaro. Inzu yasohoye igitabo cyanjye yasohoye ibitabo byinshi ku gitsina harimo n’ibitabo by’umuganga w’ikirangirire w’umufaransa Gerard Leleu. Mu by’ukuri bazi ibyo bakora.

Afrik.com: Usibye kunyaza, hari ubundi buryo waba uzi bwatuma umugore arangiza bitamugoye?

Nsekuye Bizimana: Mba nkuroga, iyo mbumenya mba narabwanditseho

Afrik.com: Mbese inyandiko zawe zihengamiye ku itezambere ry’umugore?

Nsekuye Bizimana: ntabwo ari mu buryo bw’uburwanashyaka, ni ikibazo nabonye, cy’uko abagore bagomba gushimishwa n’igitsina cyabo. Ndashaka ko abagore basohora igihe barimo guhuza igitsina.

Afrik.com:Urumva ushaka gukora ubushakashatsi bunonosoye ku kunyaza muri Institute for Sexology and Sexual Medicine mu Budage kugira ngo ugaragaze akamaro k’ubu buryo. Amafaranga y’uyu mushinga uzayakura he?

Nsekuye Bizimana:Ubushakashatsi bwitaweho muri iki gihe mu Budage ni indwara z’ibitsina n’ingaruka zo mutwe ziterwa no gufata abana ku ngufu no Gufata Ku Ngufu muri rusange. Ntabwo bazi uburyo bunyuranye bwo guhuza ibitsina. Ariko aha naho bazahagera. Bizatwara igihe mbere y’uko igitabo cyanjye gisobanura neza ibitekerezo byanjye abantu bakabyitaho, ariko ndatekereza ko abafaransa bazahita bagikunda, ndateganya rero kuzabona infashanyo ziturutse mu bafaransa.

Iki kiganiro cyayobowe na Habibou Bangre, cyahinduwe mu Kinyarwanda na H.Bangambiki,Umwanditsi mukuru wa Igituba.org

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AMABANGA Y’ABAGORE N’ABAGABO

AMABANGA Y’ABAGORE

Abagore bakunze guca abagabo inyuma. Ibi ni bimwe mu bikunze kubabaho iyo bagerageza guca abagabo inyuma

-abagore bakunze kubika sms z’urukundo ngo bazongere bazisome
-bitondera buri kantu ni yo mpamvu badakunze gufatwa
-bamenya kwicunga no kutagaragaza ko hari icyo bahuriyeho n’uwo bakundana
-bumva ko niba batahuje igitsina nta guhemuka kurimo
-bakunda vuba ariko birabagora kubangikanya abagabo
-iyo hari uwo bakunze bakora uko bashoboye bakamugusha kandi ntibapfa kurekura
-umugore yihitiramo uwo bazakundana hanze y’urugo atabifashijwemo n’inshuti
-abagore iyo barimo guhuza igitsina n’uwo bashaknye bamenya guhisha cyane ko baba barimo gutekereza ku wundi mugabo
-abagore bakunze gusambana n’abagabo b’inshuti z’urugo
-birabagora kwemera ko baciye umugabo inyuma
-biraborohera kubabarira iyo baciwe inyuma

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AMABANGA Y’BAGABO

Abagabo bakunze guca abagore inyuma. Ibi ni bimwe mu bikunze kubabaho iyo bagerageza guca abagore inyuma

-abagabo bazi gutandukanya urukundo n’igitsina
-iyo havutse ibibazo bahitamo kubirangiza vuba aho kubitindaho
-bafite uburyo bwinshi bwo guca abagore inyuma-club z’abagore bambaye ubusa,porono,etc
-bakorera mu matsinda, umugabo ashobora kurangira undi
-ntibatinda ku masentiments
-baganira n’abandi bagabo ibidakomeye
-ntibazi kureshya
-ntibakunda abagore babategeka
-ntibazi kubeshya
-bashaka abakunzi kure y’urugo
-bemera vuba iyo bavumbuwe
-ntibamenya kubabarira

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AMABANGA Y’ABAGORE:KUKI ABAGORE BACA ABAGABO INYUMA

AMABANGA Y’ABAGORE:KUKI ABAGORE BACA ABAGABO INYUMA

Umushakashatsi w’umunyamerika David Buss avuga ko muri kamere yabo, abagore baremanywe ubushobozi bwo guca inyuma abagabo. Abagabo ngo impamvu baca inyuma abagore ni ukugira ngo babyare abandi bana ahandi, mu gihe abagore baca abagabo inyuma kubera impamvu zitandukanye:abagore baca abagabo inyuma kubera ikibazo cy’umutekano: umugore aba ashaka amugabo umukunda akanabimwereka,umugabo umuha agaciro, umwifuza ku mubiri, kandi akamwumva. Abagore benshi baca inyuma abagabo kubera ko hari byinshi baba babuze mu rugo. Ubushakashatsi kandi bwerekana ko hagati ya 30-60% by’abagabo na 20-50% by’abagore mu buzima bw’abo baca inyuma y’abo bashakanye.

Umuco n’imiterere y’abagabo bibemerera guca abagore inyuma. Amazu abakobwa babyiniramo bambaye ubusa ni ayabo, utubare twa nijoro ni utwabo. Iyo barambiwe n’ubuzima bwo mu rugo bigira hanze kwishimisha mu gihe abagore baguma mu rugo ntibagire aho bahungira akamenyero mu mibanire yo mu rugo.

tags-gusambana,kubaka urugo,urugo ruhire,igitsina

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KUKO MFITE IGITUBA

KUKO MFITE IGITUBA

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ninjye murozi
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nshinzwe kumara ipfa
iryanjye nkaripfana
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bankinisha pronography
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mu ntambara barampiga
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abakandinze bo mu muryango
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singire icyo mvuga
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bampitiramo umugabo
batitaye ku rukundo
bishakira inka umunani

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banshyingira nkiri muto
bakansangiza n’umusaza
ejo akambera umusazi

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banca rugongo
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bantegeka gukuna
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banta mu rwa Bayanga
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umuco ntunyumva
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nta mugayo umubarwaho

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baranterura
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iyo mvutse
ababyeyi barababara
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banyita nyirabishuko
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nakira ibyo umugabo
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KWIHANGANIRA GUHEMUKIRANA KW’ABASHAKANYE

KWIHANGANIRA GUHEMUKIRANA KW’ABASHAKANYE

Abagabo bafite ubushobozi bwo “kugabanya umutwe wabo mo ibice bibiri.”Umugabo ashobora kumenya gutandukanya urukundo n’igitsina. Umugabo aba azi icyo ashaka. Ni yo mpamvu iyo umugabo asambanye hanze y’urugo bitaba bivuze ko yifuza kurusenya.

Ku bagore ho n’ibindi bibazo, ntibamenya gutandukanya ibya roho n’iby’umubiri! Byose baravanga, umugore umwe yaravuze ati “sinumva ukuntu naryamana n’undi mugabo ndi muzima ntasinze, ntamukunda cyangwa nta gahunda ndende dufitanye yo kuzakomeza gukundana. Nabikora gusa nzi neza ko nta ejo habyo hazabaho, ni ukuvuga turamutse duhuye gitungura tutaziranye, tukabikora, nkahita mubura nkuko yaje sinzongere kumubona.”

Umugore iyo akunze umugabo, amwimariramo uruhu n’uruhande, niyo mpamvu bigora abagore kugira inkundo zirenze rumwe. Umushakashatsi mu mibanire y’abashakanye wo mu gihugu cya Portugal witwa Jose Gameiro avuga ko “Umugore watangiye guca umugabo inyuma aba ateye ubwoba, kuko amahirwe y’uko azakomeza kubana n’umugabo we aba ari make.”

Abagore birabagora gukunda abagabo barenze umwe icyarimwe ni nko gusatura umutwe mo ibice bibiri. Bishobokera abagabo ariko ku bagore biragoye. Muganga Claudia Morais agira ati “si ngombwa ko umugore afatwa yaciye umugabo inyuma kugira ngo habeho ibibazo. Abarwayi banjye benshi ntawabafashe ahubwo barizanye bamaze kurembywa no kunanirwa no kubaho ubuzima bubiri.”

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MBESE WICUZA KUBA WARASHATSE

MBESE WICUZA KUBA WARASHATSE

Ibibazo by’abashakanye ni byinshi. Hari abavuga ngo “inshakira muruho ntibaza amoko”. Hari igihe umuntu apima nabi agashakana n’umuntu badafite byinshi bahuriyeho. Ikibatsi cy’urukundo kigatuma bihutira kurushinga, nyuma y’iminsi mike gusa, ibibatandukanya bikaba byinshi kuruta ibibahuza. Bagatangira gushakira amahoro n’umutuzo hanze y’urugo. Umva uko uno mugore yicuza kuba yarashatse umugabo “Ndumva nifuza bya bihe ntari ‘nyina wa’ cyangwa ‘muka naka’ muri iyo minsi naritwaraga nkigarura. Ubu ngubu hari igihe nsohokana n’inshuti zanjye ariko umugabo ntabyemere. Umunsi umwe narasohotse ntinda gutaha, ngeze mu rugo nsanga yafunze umuryango n’ingufuri. Nahise niga isomo, nsohoka gusa iyo ari mu rugendo, kandi sinshobora kubimubwira.”

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