NIBA NZANAPFA NZAGENDE NICWE NA SIDA

NIBA NZANAPFA NZAGENDE NICWE NA SIDA

Ejobundi ndi ku kazi nari nicaranye n’umusore ukora akazi ko gutwara imizigo na ba nyirayo. Abenshi mu bakiriya ni abagore n’abakobwa. Turimo tuganira rero hahinguka umukobwa batangira kuganira agiye arambwira ati”uriya yarampaye” ndamubaza nti “urabatwara se ukanabarongora” ati “cyane”. Mu kanya hahinguka undi wari wambaye ijeans igituba yakiregeye imbere. Aramusuhuza akora ku gitsina ati “bite se ko wabuze” na we “Ndahari ni wowe utaboneka” Ati “uzaboneka ryari se ngo umpe?” ati “igihe cyose mba mpari kandi aho wanshakira hose mba mpari kandi ngiki -agikoraho-ndakigendana”. Ubwo bahise bahana umunsi uwo musore arangije amusaba telefone ye ngo arebe kuko uwo mukobwa yari amaze kwitaba undi muhungu. Umukobwa amusigira telefone ajya kuba avugana n’abandi hirya. Nuko ndegera tureba muri telefone. Mu ruhande rw’amashusho twasanzemo ka video k’umusore wari urimo kwikinisha, na video y’umugabo n’umugore bendana. Ubwo umukobwa aba aratungutse umuhungu aramubaza ati “ba uretse ndebe mbese nta yawe irimo barimo kuguswera” umukobwa ati “irimo mba nyikweretse ariko ndihuta.” Nasigaranye n’uwo muhungu arambwira ati “n’uriya yarampaye.” Ndamubwira nti “warabarangije wo kanyagwa we ariko se sha nta bwoba bwa sida ujya ugira?” Ati “Sha niba SIDA yica yo rwose ntizansiga, ariko ninshaka nzapfe” Nti “Kuki se udakoresha Agakingirizo” Ati”Ndagakoresha ariko iyo biryoshye nkakuramo.” Ndamubwira nti “buriya se shahu urabona umugore umwe azakubumba?” Ati “umugore umwe ni nka nyoko, nzashaka umugore nshyire mu rugo ariko nta business mfite yokuzirikwa k’umugore umwe.”

Ngibyo rero ibyibera mu mitwe ya bamwe mu rubyiruko tubyiruye.

INKURU BISA

Nkunda Kureba Poronogarafiya-Mbese Hari Icyo Byantwara?

Mbese Nkunda Igituba cyane

Inshuti Mbi Zirashukana

UBURYO BUNYURANYE BWO GUHUZA IGITSINA N’INTUMBI

UBURYO BUNYURANYE BWO GUHUZA IGITSINA N’INTUMBI
par Bangambiki

Nigeze kwandika muri iyi nkuru ku byerekeranye no guswera intumbi, muri iyi nyandiko ndakomeza gusobanura uburyo bunyuranye abaswera intumbi n’abifuza guhuza igitsina n’intumbi babikoramo.

Necrophilia ni ijambo risobanura “gukunda intumbi.”Abakurikiranira hafi iby’imyitwarire y’abantu bavuga ko abakunda intumbi akenshi babiterwa no gushaka gukunda umuntu utanga urukundo rwabo. Dr Jonathan Rothman na Dr Phillip Resnick bavuga ko hari uburyo butatu abakunda intumbi bigaragazamo:

1.kwica umuntu wifuza kubona intumbi ye

2.gukunda intumbi bisanzwe: gukoresha imibiri y’abapfuye ngo ibashimishe mu rwego rw’igitsina

3.kwifuza intumbi: kwifuza guhuza igitsina n’intumbi, kwikinisha umuntu ayitekerezaho ari ntashyire mu bikorwa ibitekerezo bye.

Aba baganga Rothman na Resnick mu bushakashatsi bakoze mu bantu 122 (hejuru ya 1/2 cyabo ni abakozi bo mu marimbi n’abashinzwe gutunganya imibiri y’abitabye imana)biyemerera ko bakunda intumbi, benshi muri bo bavuga ko bakunda intumbi mu buryo bwa kabiri ni ukuvuga gukunda intumbi bisanzwe: gukoresha imibiri y’abapfuye ngo ibashimishe mu rwego rw’igitsina.

Mu yindi raporo yakozwe na J.Paul de River yatangaje ukuntu umucukuzi w’imva w’umutaliyani yatangiraga kwikinisha iyo yabaga agiye guhamba umukobwa w’inkumi wari mwiza. Kugira ngo arangize vuba, ngo uwo mugabo yakoraga kuri iyo ntumbi. de River avuga ko uwo mugabo iyo yabaga afite umwanya ari wenyine n’iyo ntumbi y’umukobwa yabanzaga kuyenda. Umunsi umwe ngo yafashwe umunwa we uri ku gitsina cy’intumbi y’umugore maze yiyemerera ko yari amaze kubikora ku ntumbi zirenze ijana. De River amaze gusuzuma uwo mugabo yasanze mu by’ukuri arwaye mu mutwe.

De River kandi atanga urugero rw’undi mugabo wakoraga mu buruhukiro wajyaga arambika imboro ye ku bibero by’abagore bapfuye. Ngo yajyaga aswera nibura intumbi 4 cyangwa 5 buri cyumweru. Ngo k’umwangavu umwe yamunyoye amaraso n’inkari kandi yumva ashatse cyane kumurya bigeze aho ngo yamuriye inyama zo ku kibuno arangije amwenda mu kibuno.

Amateka yuzuyemo inkuru ziteye ubwoba nk’izi harimo nuko kera mu Misiri abantu bari bafite ubwoba ko abashinzwe gutunganya imibiri y’abagore babo bitabye imana b ashoboraga kubarongorera abagore bapfuye. Ni yo mpamvu abagabo bagumanaga abagore babo iwabo bakabatanga ngo batunganywe bamaze kubora. Hari umugani uvuga ko umwami Herod yaba yarishe umugore we hanyuma akumugana akajya ahuza igitsina na we imyaka irindwi nyuma yaho.

90% y’abenda intumbi ni abagabo ariko hari n’abagore babikora nk’uyu mugore ngo mu mezi ane ya mbere atangiye akazi kokoza intumbi yahuje igitsina n’intumbi nyinshi. Uwo mudamu yavuze ko atigeze ashimishwa n’abagabo bazima kuko ngo yigezwe gufatwa ku ngufu no kugirirwa ibya mfura mbi. Ngo yashoboraga rero gushimishwa n’intumbi kuko ntacyo zamuvugishaga. Nubwo uyu mugore ngo atigeze yiyinjizamo imboro y’intumbi kuko bitashobokaga ngo hari undi mugore ipombo yinjiraga munsi y’uruhu rw’imboro igahagarara akayikoresha!

IMIBARE Y’ABAHUZA IGITSIANA N’INTUMBI

-Abifuza guhuza igitsina n’intumbi cyangwa bahuza igitsina na zo ni abantu bahuza igitsina n’abandi mu buryo busanzwe. -Abakunze kwica abantu babashakaho igitsina ni abagabo bahuza igitsina n’abandi.
-60% y’abahuza igitsina n’intumbi bafite ibibazo bito mu mutwe naho
-10% bari hafi y’ubusazi.

IMYUGA ABAHUZA IGITSINA N’INTUMBI BAKOMOKAMO AKENSHI NI

-abakozi bo muri morgue
-abambika intumbi
-abavugabutumwa
-abakozi bo mu marimbi
-abasirikare
Ibi ntibivuga ko abakora muri ino mirimo bose babikora ariko abenshi mibabikora baboneka muri iyo myuga.
BLOG BIFITANYE ISANO

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IBIBAZO KU GUSWERA

IBIBAZO KU GUSWERA

1.MBESE IYO UMUKOBWA ASHYUTSWE YUMVA AMEREWE ATE

Iyo umukobwa ashyutswe amabere arakomera, imoko zikirega. Igituba kirabobera, kigatangira gutumbiramo imbere ibyo bigaherekezwa no gutereramo imbere kumeze nk’uko imboro itera iyo yashyutswe. Rugongo yari nto mbere yo gushyukwa iratumba ikaba nini kandi igakomera. Muri rusange usanga uwo mukobwa yahinduye n’indoro, usanga yahonze rwose kandi agatangira guhumeka vuba.

2.KUKI UMUKOPINE WANJYE YANYIMYE IGITUBA?

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Mungira inama mfite umukopine dukundana njya ngerageza kumusaba ko dukora imibonano akanga none nzabigenzente?ntegereje inama zanyu.

IGISUBIZO

simba
Jestoo 5 kuryamana ntabwo aribyo byerekana urukundo wari ukwiye kwihangana kugeza igihe muzarushinga kandi nanakwemerera ntuzibagirwe agakingirizo!

3.IYO UMUGABO ASWERA UMUGORE NI NDE WUMVA UBURYOHE BWINSHI?

koffi
ese iyo umugabo aswera umugore ninde wumva uburyohe bwinshi?

IGISUBIZO

1.KAMANZI
Uswerwa niwe uryoherwa sha nturabikora harya? waracitswe!

2.Bangambiki:
KOFFI iyo umugabo arimo guswera umugore bose bagombye kuryoherwa ndetse umugore akaryoherwa cyane, nyamara kuko abagabo benshi baswera nabi baryoherwa bonyine akenshi
Niba ushaka guhaza umugore wawe soma hano kandi niba ushaka kumenya uko batanga igituba soma hano.

INKURU BISA

1.Uburyo Butandukanye bwo Guswera

2.Dore Uko Banyaza!

3.Haza Umugore Wawe Uyu Munsi!

4.Dore Uko Batanga Igituba!

4.NI GUTE NASHIMISHA UMUGORE MUSWEYE AGARAMYE?

mufupi
nongere nti “nimumbwire niba umugore agaramye aho wagerageza gukoza igitsina cyawe muri we ngo yumve yishimye atari uko anyajwe gusa!ese imyanya iryoherwa y’umugore ni iyihe?ni gute naswera umugore agaramye akaryoherwa?

IGISUBIZO

Bangambiki:
MUFUPI umugore aryoherwa muri cm za mbere zibanza z’igituba, ahaganamo imbere cyane ntiharyoha cyane, jya umucumita ahagana mu mwinjiriro unazengurutse imboro mu mwinjiriro.

5.KUKI NASWERA MU KANWA IGITUBA KIBA CYAGIYE HE?

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Ndashaka kubaza impamvu umuntu agomba guswera mu kanwa igituba cyiba cyagiye he?

IGISUBIZO

Bangambiki:
CUGA Guswera mu Kanwa ni uburyo umugore yonkamo imboro yawe.Nabyo biraryoha kubabikunda.Igituba kiba gihari ariko ni diversification y’igitsina.

INKURU BISA

Guswera mu Kanwa

6.IKIBAZO

cuga
ni gute wategura umugore wawe kuburyo ujya kumuswera yagukunze cyane kubyo ibyo uri bumusabe gukora byose abikora atabanje kubyibaza.

IGISUBIZO

CUGA kugira ngo umugore akwimariremo agomba kuba akwizeye 100% naho ubundi muracengana. Ubu ndi soma iyi nkuru yitwa Guswera ni iki?

WABWIRWA N’IKI KO UMUGABO YARANGIJE

Umusomyi w’imena ukunze no gufasha abandi basomyi ba blog Igituba, beby1 yatugejejeho ikibazo abaza uburyo umugore yamenya niba umugabo yasohoye. OK, akenshi ntibyoroha rwose kumenya niba umugabo yarangije keretse bibaye mu gihe special. Hari igihe umugabo arangiza umugore ntabimenye akamubaza ati”mbese warangije”. Ibyo akenshi biba ku bagabo bazi guswera. Umugabo uzi guswera bishobora kukugora kumenya niba yarangije. Kubera iki?Umugabo uzi guswera iyo arimo guswera aba agamije gushimisha umugore cyangwa umukunzi we. Abaswera rero bagamije gusohora ntibyakugora rwose kumenya ko yasohoye. Kuko uratega akakwicundaguraho wajya kumva ukumva akwinjiyemo cyane arakugundiriye ubundi akagwa agaramye nkaho umugiriye nabi!!

Umugabo uzi guswera aswera yicungira ko atarangiza mbere y’umugore kuko biramubabaza iyo arangije adahagije umugore. Uwo ni we mugabo. Umugabo ni ugira akamaro. Bityo rero akenshi ashyushya umugore, kugeza barangirije kimwe, maze umugore kuko yishimye cyane, ntanamenye niba umugabo yasohoye. Bagabo rero nusohora umugore ntabimenye uzamenye ko uri umuproffessionel mu guswera uzaze kuri blog igituba tuguhe certificat isinyweho na Dr Bangambiki.

Turangiza twavuga kandi ko niba nta kibazo ufitanye n’umugabo nta mpamvu ufite yo gukeka ko atasohoye. Kuko birashoboka ko umugabo ushobora kumuha nabi akarakara akayikuramo mu kinyabupfura atarangije…Ijambo ribi rikura imboro mu gituba! Hari abagore utangira kuyinjizamo akakuzanira iby’inkundo zawe na ba Mariya na Clemence imyaka itanu ishize, umva ngo abagabo bakunda igituba, iyo bimeze gutyo abenshi barazinukwa. Urumve birenge ni wowe ubwirwa.

WABWIRWA N’IKI KO UMUKOBWA CYANGWA UMUGORE ARIMO GUSOHORA

DOULE: wabwirwa ni iki ko umugore cg umukobwa arimo gusohora?

Real: Doule, ikikubwira ko umukobwa cg umugore arimo gusohora nuko ubona asa nutaye ubwenge uko mujyana aho wishakiye yajya kurangiza ukumva aragufashe cyane akagukomeza ntubashe kumwikura, akiruhutsa.

KWIBA UMUGONO
par Bangambiki

Guswera umukobwa cyangwa umugore umwibye igituba asinziriye. Kwiba umugono ntibyoroshye ugomba kumenya neza ko uwo wiba umugono asinziriye neza! Uwiba umugono aba afite icyoba cyo gufatwa bityo iyo agize amahirwe imboro ye igakora ku gituba ahita arangiza. Biterwa nuko iyo yiba igituba aba akifuza cyane kandi amaranye umushyukwe igihe kinini ategereje ko uwo yiba umugono asinzira.

INKURU BISA

Kuki Igituba cy’Ikibano Kiryoha?

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MBESE USHOBORA GUKORESHA AGAKINGIRIZO MU NZOZI

MBESE USHOBORA GUKORESHA AGAKINGIRIZO MU NZOZI?
par Bangambiki

Hari umugore utari uwanjye ukunze kunganiriza ku buryo mwifuza. Ajya anankorera ibikorwa byatuma mpemukira uwanjye ariko njye simwizera. Njya numva abantu bavuga ko “agira ubuntu cyane” bityo nkakeka ko yankomeretsa.
Umunsi umwe nigeze kwibona ndi kumwe nawe mu nzozi arampa ariko biranyobera pe! Byabaye “mire mire umuriro ncire ncire akaryoshye” wa mugani wa warupyisi. Narihanganye ndanga kuko nta dukingirizo twari dufite mubwira ko niba dukundana bitaba byiza duhemukiranye tukabikora nta agakingirizo namubwiye ko nshobora kuba ndwaye cyangwa na we ari uko. Bukeye byarantangaje ukuntu umuntu yarota akoresha agakingirizo, ubundi iyo umuntu ahuriye n’igitsina mu nzozi ntarazamo. Ariko naje kuvumbura icyabinteye, nubwo ahari ntabikoreye kwanga guhemukira umugore wanjye -kuko ntabyo nabonye mu nzozi, Sida yarampahamuye ku buryo n’iyo ndose mpuza igitsina ntabura kuyibuka. Kugira ngo rero umuntu yirinde Indwara z’Ibitsina mu kuri ni uko yaba ababjwe na byo cyangwa hari ka experience yabibonyemo. Njye nagize experience kandi ndakeka ko nacitse ku icumu rya SIDA nubwo wenda tuzongera tugahura kuko “ntawe uvuma iritararenga”. Narasambanye wa muntu we kandi nsambana nta gakingirizo nkoresheje. Nari nasinze. Bukeye nibuka ko nakoze ibara. Kuva uwo munsi ubuzima bwanjye bwarahindutse nabayeho mu guhahamuka kugeza ubwo ngiriye kwipimisha muganga agasanga ndi muzima. Hashize imyaka 12 ibyo bibaye.
Ariko hari uwavuga ngo ndigira “umutagatifu” nyamara ni byo byambayeho!

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IBIBAZO NºIBISUBIZO KU GUSWERA

Uyu musore afite ibibazo binyuranye ku guswera. Aha turagerageza kumusubiza.

P.ibyo mbabwiye hano ni ukuri,niyo mpamvu nifuza ko mwampa amakuru nyayo kuko nyakeneye cyane.
Ndi umusore mukuru,imyaka 31 y’amavuko,sinigeze mbonana n,umukobwa cyangwa umugore muri iki gihe cyose ariko mfite fiancee tuzarushingana juillet,2009 imyiteguro tuyigeze kure.none ndashaka ko munsobanurira birambuye uburyo bwo:

-gushyukwisha bwiza,bwihuse kdi butbangamiye umwe muri twe.niba hari etapes,please mubimbwire uko zikurikirana.
-nzabwirwa niki ko mugenzi wanjye tayari yashyutswe cyane
-ngo iyo urimo guswera,akenshi abakobwa baba bataka,ese baba bababara,nzakomeze cyangwa ibyiza ni uguhita mpagarika?
-nsanze atarakunnye bivuga ko hari icyo yaba abura mukundyohereza?

Nabonye mufite umwanditsi w’umugore niba ntacyo bimutwaye azagire uruhare runini mukunsubiza niba bishoboka azampe na experience ye cyangwa y’abandi bagore kuko nifuza reussite igihe nzaba narushinze,mbaye mbashimiye,bye

bangambiki-Alo P. , nibyiza kuba waragize interet kuri blog IGITUBA.ORG.Nibyo kurushinga ubwa mbere biragora nanjye nari meze nkawe ubwo narushingaga mu1995. Sinari narigeze mpura n’umugore mu buzima bwanjye, byarantunguye rero ariko nagiye mbyiga gahoro gahoro ku buryo ubu naha umuntu inama.1.Dore ibyerekeranye no gutaka

IMPAMVU YO GUTAKA, KUNIHA, KWIRIZA KW’ABAKOBWA N’ABAGORE IYO BARIMO GUSWERWA

Mugabo rero, birya umukobwa aba yigirisha urimo kumuswera yitakisha ,yiriza ntaho bihuriye n’ububabare n’agahinda! Kandi nta n’ubwo aba yigiza nkana!-aba yaryohewe iyo umuntu ababye arataka yakwishima agataka cyangwa agaseka-umukobwa ashobora guseka murimo kubikora- cyangwa agakora ikintu kigaragaza ko yishimye)-kuniha no kwiriza ni uburyo bwo guhumeka umuntu yitsa cyane kugira ngo aturize mu maboko y’umukunzi we, akomeze kugira umushyukwe-ubushake bwo guhuza igitsina, kandi aryoherwe n’igitsina(abantu baryoherwa n’igitsina cyane iyo batuje kandi baruhutse!Iyo badatuje hari ikibirunkana ntikibaryohera baba bafite ibindi bintu ku mutima.)-ni icyubahiro aba aguhaye!ni uburyo bwo kukwereka ko ari umugore(arimo kurira no gutaka)wowe ukaba umugabo(ubugabo bwawe bumumurimo buratuma ataka-akwereka ko nta wabura gutaka umugabo amuri ho!Aba yicishije bugufi,abagabo birabashimisha.Nta washimishwa no guswera igishegabo, cyangwa igiswerabagabo.Iyo umugore aniha,yitakisha,aba akwereka ko atari kimwe muri byo maze kuvuga.-umugore abyungukiramo! Iyo amaze kukwereka ko ari umugore,umwereka ko uri umugabo, ugakora iyo bwabaga!Ni nk’ikinamico buri muntu aba azi role ye!-mugabo ariko urajye witonda
,hari ubwo ashobora gutaka ababaye,imboro yawe ndende yarenze uburebure bw’igituba,ushobora kumva agusabye kuba uretse kandi ni byiza ko muhuza ibitsina muganira kugira ngo umenye uko ahagaze.Niba mudashobora kuganira sinzi n’impamvu murimo guhuza ibitsina!Wari uzi ko iyo umugore atagukunda ntanakubahe umuswera ntiyirize cyangwa ngo anihe?Urajombagura igiti gikoma iki!Nubona bikubayeho,uzahagarare wibaze.Utunganye ibidatunganye.

2.GUSHYUKWISHA KANDA HANO http://www.igituba.org/2007/11/gushyukwisha.html

3.Umugore wakunnye araryoshya si ikinyoma kuko byoroha kumunyaza kuko imishino ye imubobeza ariko nubona utarakunnye uzamufate uko ari kandi wige uburyo bwo kumushimisha, n’abazungu ntibakunda kandi ntibabura kurongorwa no uryohereza abagabo ahanini ibyo ni ibibazo by’umuco nubwo muri cas y’abanyarwanda abagore bakunnye ari beza ku gitsina.

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URWENYA-IMBEBA YASWEYE INZOVU

IMBEBA YASWEYE INZOVU!

Urwenya rwanditswe n’umusomyi/umwanditsi kuIgituba witwa LATOUTE

Imbeba yabonaga inzovu ikifuza gukora nayo amour ariko bukeye irabizindukira irayibwira
iti “wampaye” inzovu iti “iki!” imbeba iti “igituba” inzovu kuko yari yizeye ko imbeba ntacyo iri bukore irayemerera ahubwo indi iratinya ariko yikoza hirya hashize umwanya iragaruka isanga inzovu yaguye agacuho yasinziriye iyijyaho ngo iyikanike inzovu irikanga iriruka imbeba irakugendeye no mu gutwi kw’inzovu iti chérie ndakubabaje!(Uru rwenya rwatangiwe na Gaternelson asaba uwaba aruzi kururangiza Latoute arahagoboka hari ku ya 1/4/2008)

by LATOUTE and Gaternelson

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